Four Ways Millennials Can Be Happier Right This Minute

23 Jun

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So tell me, are you happy?

Like, honestly… happy?

Do you even know what happiness is, really?

Or are you like most of us… stressed out all the time?

Do you spend hours in your room crying because life isn’t working out the way you thought it would?

Because if the answer is yes, I’m going to tell you right now…you gotta stop doing that.

Our twenties are a mess.

A legit freaking mess.

We’re constantly stressed out and confused and don’t really know what to do with our lives.

Then, the real-world welcomes us with an even bigger slap in the face.

We’re suddenly wearing five different hats…

We’re suddenly juggling 700,000 responsibilities at once…

Of course, it’s stressful.

And it sucks.

Big time.

Mostly because we’ve been taught our whole lives that things are supposed to get better as time goes by.

Not worse.

The older we get… the happier we become. So we’ve been told.

Because, you know… when we get older, we graduate college and we get awesome jobs and we get married and we have the cutest kids and everything is wonderful.

That’s the story we’ve told since before we can remember.

But the truth is this…

We don’t just somehow get happier.

We don’t just wake up one day and feel happier.

It doesn’t happen like that.

Happiness isn’t a given.

It takes work.

It takes time.

And most importantly, it takes some serious self-reflection.

So in the meantime, while you’re figuring out what makes you happy and what doesn’t, here are a few things we can all do to make our lives a little bit better…

To make things a little more bearable…

Because we really can be happier.

Right. This. Very. Minute.

And I refuse to accept anything other than that.

1. Stop living in the future  

Today isn’t tomorrow. Today isn’t five years from now. Today is today, so enjoy it. Sure, we should all have dreams, but we need to make an effort to stop living our lives completely in the future. We spend so much time thinking about and planning for the future that we often miss out on so much of the present. Focus on what’s in front of you. It’ll be gone before you know it.

2. Stop buying so much stuff

Money lets you buy things. And sure, things are great. But you know what’s even better? People. Relationships. Experiences. Stop spending so much money on things that’ll end up in the trash next year. You know you don’t need half the things you have in your closet. Instead, save money. Give yourself that peace of mind. Instead, use that money to visit your family. Use that money to travel. But infinite amounts of clothes and shoes and electronics? Such a waste.

3. Stop seeking everyone’s approval

You can’t get everyone to like you. There. End of story. Now stop trying to please everyone. Do things for yourself. I promise you, it’s probably the best thing you can do right now if you ever want to live a happy life.

4. Stop second guessing yourself all the time

Ugh. Should I? Shouldn’t I? But… what if…all these questions ultimately lead to inaction. Listen to your gut. Learn to trust your intuition. If you want to do something, do it. Because if you second guess every move you want to make, you’ll never go anywhere, and how absolutely lame would that be?

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10 Responses to “Four Ways Millennials Can Be Happier Right This Minute”

  1. justjessmay June 23, 2014 at 11:17 pm #

    Great post! I feel really strongly about our generation doing something for themselves rather than letting it slide, and happiness is something I think we wait for and assume it’ll drop into our laps.
    I wrote a post on not discounting your twenties. You might like it?
    http://justjessmay.wordpress.com/2014/06/20/are-our-twenties-really-a-disposable-decade/

  2. Rubi June 24, 2014 at 1:37 am #

    Ugh I needed this. I just graduated college and am about to turn 22 and Im just like….”so what now?” Currently Im sorting through all my crap and donating basically everything, I need a fresh start to figure out my next step lol

    • aisforalfredo June 24, 2014 at 2:27 pm #

      I’m in the same boat! 22, just graduated and have no idea what’s next. I def need a fresh start! If I can just move across the country and start new right?

  3. Stephanie Claire June 24, 2014 at 3:42 am #

    This post has hit the nail on the head! I also think our generation is stuck between doing things ‘properly’ the way things have been done for years, following the rules and wanting to take the risks that are almost necessary for our happiness and in many ways our success! x

  4. Audrey June 24, 2014 at 9:14 am #

    I especially love, “Stop Seeking Everyone’s Approval.” It really makes you step back and realize, now is our time to be selfish and yes, not everyone is going to like us, but that’s on them, and as long as we’re living our life in a way that makes us happy, then that’s all the matters.

  5. aisforalfredo June 24, 2014 at 2:26 pm #

    I love this post, number 3 is probably what I have the most trouble with. You’re right, our happiness is something we have control over. Thanks! This was inspiring lol

  6. What June 29, 2014 at 4:09 pm #

    Throw out the tv and all those become easier! 🙂

  7. Hannah Michelle August 26, 2014 at 6:14 pm #

    you are so spot on. thanks for posting and sharing.

    http://www.amillennialmemoir.com/

  8. Heidi January 5, 2015 at 3:44 pm #

    Amen to this post! Thanks for this.

  9. TheFoodielennial January 12, 2015 at 11:10 am #

    Great blog! I’ve been out of work since April 2014 and have been looking for a job. After a while, it got discouraging and then a few weeks ago, I decided to go full force with this blog I have. And now I have sort of a passion project to get me through this tough time. It gives me a sense of feeling like everything will be ok.

    I’ll definitely keep my eyes peeled for your posts!

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