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Yea, This #AskHerMore Campaign is Pretty Freaking Awesome

23 Feb

ask her more

Last night I learned about the #Askhermore campaign, and as a young professional woman, I have to say that I couldn’t be happier about it. It freaking rocks.

So for those of you who are sitting there like, “what the heck is this #askhermore thing”… open up a new tab on your computer, google #askhermore, and then come back and finish reading this.

Okay, so why is this important? I think it’s pretty obvious. The #askhermore campaign is a movement that’s meant to raise awareness and to cause reporters to ask not-so-fashion-related questions on the RedCarpet. Instead of just commenting on the jewlery that’s being worn and the designer gowns, this social media campaign is asking that we place more emphasis on the amazing work that these actresses are doing.

Now sure, I’m the first one to say that I love fashion. I like pretty things. But do I think that the talent these women possess should have to be overshadowed by society’s interest in their ability to pick out a pretty outfit?

Not so much.

Us women are so much more than our outfit-coordinating skills. We’re smart. We’re powerful. We have tons to offer. And it’s a shame really that when we enter the workforce, we’re often looked at…up and down, the general perception being that a negative correlation exists between our intelligence and the height of our heels.

If we dress well, we can’t possibly be smart. If we’re fashionable, we’re obviously just trying to impress the men.

That’s really typically the general perception, and I’m telling you…it’s bullshit.

I’ve dealt with it before. I’m quite confident I’ll deal with it all my life. But I can promise you that I’ll fight it every step of the way.

Like the story I’ve told before about my college professor. Why is it that if I have nice legs I can’t be taken seriously?

So let’s start treating women like the well-rounded individuals that they are. Let’s ask women about the things that inspire them. Let’s ask them about their goals, their passions, their careers. Let’s ask them about the struggles they’ve overcome. Heck- ask them about the things that excite them. But don’t just ask them about their outfits. Let’s be a little more creative.

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Young Women in the Workforce

11 May

So here’s the deal…

It’s rough being young and in the workforce.

But it appears that young WOMEN have it the hardest.


Because not only do we have to prove ourselves capable despite our age, but despite our gender too.

This is not okay.

I mean really, why is the notion that we’re young, intelligent women, so ridiculous? What do we have to do to gain respect from both our male and female colleagues?

It’s true that we’re young.

But we’re also hungry, ambitious, and yes, contrary to popular belief, many of us are smart.

Check out my full article featured in Urbane Sophisticate’s Women’s Issue——> here.

If you’re a young woman in the workforce, you may relate.

And if you’re not, you should still be aware of the hardships that we face.

Then, start taking us seriously.


From Urbane Sophisticate’s Women’s Issue:

by: Kayla Cruz

I should have known that being a young woman in the workforce was not going to be easy. There were particularly obvious signs: my first, which I completely disregarded, took place my sophomore year in college. I remember sitting in class, making up an exam when my professor came up to me, a bit too close for comfort, and said, “You know, you’re going to have a hard time being taken seriously at work with legs like that.” I assure you he said that. Two years later, when interviewing for a new job, the hiring manager (who was a woman, for the record) looked at me, in my tailored Calvin Klein business dress, and said, “I’d like to hire you. But we’re going to have to put you in scrubs. I won’t have you walking around with those legs.”  That was my first career lesson: my legs are an issue.

It seems that Gen Y women entering the workforce today face a tremendous challenge in being taken seriously as professionals. Not only do we have to deal with negative stereotypes regarding our young age, but we also have to navigate the workforce as women and unfortunately, regardless of how far we’ve come, there are still some people that undermine our ability to take our careers seriously.

Most of us attend college for four years in hopes of landing our dream jobs upon graduating. We dream of making a difference, and becoming successful and powerful women, a goal we know that we’re perfectly capable of achieving. However, what we discover when we enter the workforce often does not meet up to these expectations. We find instead that most organizations are severely flawed in their infrastructures and make it nearly impossible for young women to attain the acknowledgement that they deserve. I know that for me, that was certainly the case.  I entered a male dominated workforce where I was perceived as an object of desire, incapable of possessing intellect. The understanding that I was a young and smart woman did not exist.

Nearly nothing I learned in college prepared me for what I encountered as a young woman in the workforce. During my first year as a professional, I faced sexual harassment on a daily basis. When men would approach me, it was hardly ever to talk about work, and it was never in a serious manner. They failed to respect me as an intellectual and that upset me. While I was flattered that men perceived me as desirable, what I wanted more than anything was to be acknowledged for my talents and the knowledge that I possessed.

This longing to be respected in our careers that we, as Generation Y, bring to the workforce is not a bad thing. However, when added to our naiveté, it makes us prime targets for sexual harassment, which I learned first hand. In this case, one that occurs way too often, a young woman becomes frustrated because no one seems to respect her work. Then comes along a male superior who assures her that he does see her value. He then takes a “special interest” in her and ensures that her career development is given high priority.  She is given new projects and challenging work and she is happy until said superior is calling her at 3 a.m. demanding her resignation because she failed to report to his apartment that evening. 

To add to this is the sad reality that a young woman is seldom able to take credit for her success. As she advances in her career, she is automatically perceived as “the girl that slept with her boss.”  It is seemingly unfathomable that a young woman may succeed based on her own hard work.  What people struggle to understand is that women are just as capable as men in the workforce.  Add to that factor a young age and it is nearly impossible to be taken seriously, to be perceived as anything other than an executive’s secretary. I don’t aspire to be a secretary. I want much more than that and I will spend my entire career making sure that I am known for my intellect and the outstanding work I produce, not just for my legs.

Being young in the workforce today is difficult. Generation Y is striving to make employers aware of the fact that they are capable of doing serious work, beyond the process of making copies and other clerical duties. They yearn for challenging work and want to be seen as equal teammates by their colleagues. It appears that young women have it the hardest. We have to prove ourselves capable despite our age and our gender. But why is the notion that we are young, intelligent women, so ridiculous? What do we have to do to gain respect from both our male and female colleagues? It is true that we are young, but we are also hungry, ambitious, and yes, contrary to popular belief, many of us are smart.

Gen Y & Sexual Harassment

20 Feb

Soooo you see that bullseye? Yea, that’s what Gen-Yers look like when they start a new job. We are the perfect target for sexual harassment.

We make it so easy for them and here’s why:

1. We want more than anything, to be liked

You freaking got that job you’ve been dying for. Congrats! So first day on the job, you get dressed up, you’re beyond nervous, and you practice your lines so that you sound like the perfect employee robot. Why? Because you want people to like you. You want your boss and your co-workers to think that you’re the best thing that ever happened to them. Ok cool. Doesn’t seem like the worst thing, right? But it is because the desperate desire to get along with everyone, to please everyone, leads us to draw our boundaries a lot farther than where they should be. When someone does or says something innappropriate,we let it slide, because we feel that if we say something, we’ll be that conservative bitch that can’t take a joke. When we’re afraid of people not liking us, we accept certain things that are just not acceptable.

2. We want to move up the career ladder (even though it won’t exist for long)

We keep getting awesome projects. You can be sure that when your boss likes you, he’s going to make sure that you like him back. So he’s brilliant. He gives you great, rewarding work. And you eat it up because OF COURSE you’d rather coordinate a community event than make copies and schedule meetings. He introduces you to all the right people. He makes sure you get to attend important meetings. AND YOU LOVE IT.

3. We’re ridiculously naive

It’s pretty difficult to notice sexual harassment when you actually like the person, when the person is nice and seems to be helping you with your career. That’s why so many of us fall for it. We think, awesome, I’ve got a friend now and it just so happens that he’s in a position of power. In addition, most of us Gen-Yers entering the workforce do so single. So we want to meet a cute guy and when we find one that’s being nice to us and showing interest we think, score! We picture ourselves going to company parities together. We think, wow, how cute, John and his secretary ended up together. Or Sarah and Phil from finance, they’re quite the power couple. Not to mention that they’re in suits. Ohhhh the power of the suit.


It’s not okay for anyone you work with to put you in these situations. At the end of the day, they should know better. We’re easy targets because we don’t know any better. Most of us don’t have an extensive experience with sexual harassment. So Gen-Y, be a little more aware when in the workplace. Here’s a tip…If your boss has an issue being seen with you in public, then something is up. Soemthing is inappropriate. Because if his intentions are genuine and there’s nothing inappropriate going on, he won’t try to hide it. Some relationships should be stricly business. Keep them that way or I promise, you’ll find yourself in a situation that sucks.

A Bit About Me, Just Your Typical Generation Y Girl

24 Jan

I learned at a very young age that life is a lot more difficult than we expect it to be, than what we are taught. For years we dread going to class and look forward to the day that we can be considered working adults. We’re taught or seem to believe that after we graduate from college everything will make sense, that things will be better. But for me, that’s not exactly what happened. Definitely not. Instead, I found myself questioning everything about my life. What I was doing. What I wanted.

So here I am today, 21 years old and lost. I don’t know a lot of things. But I do know that I like to talk, and that I like to write and I like to bitch about things that upset me (I call this being opinionated). I’ve only been in the workforce for a short time but let me just say that in that short time, I have witnessed some pretty terrible things. I’ve dealt with unethical management, poor leaders, age and gender discrimination, as well as a lovely case of sexual harassment. I’ve messed up a lot, made lots of mistakes. But I’m really thankful for them, all of them. I’ve learned a lot.

So to any HR people that read this and think that I’m just some annoying brat with lots of free time on her hands, read what I have to say before you decide that I’m clueless. Pay attention to the things that I have witnessed and the insight I have on the future of the workforce before you dismiss my thoughts due to the fact that I have not yet reached my 30th birthday. In case you haven’t noticed, there are some pretty incompetent people running even HR teams that are perhaps more than three times my age.

My wish is that this blog serves as a forum for young GenYers, many that are either working for the first time or soon to be transitioning from college to working life.  For those of you just entering the workforce, I hope you can learn something from my past experiences and that you can also help me communicate with those in leadership positions today. It’s my mission to let them know what we want and what we need from our work environment.

How do we want our futures to be? What makes us happy about going to work? What pisses us off? That’s what this is for.

I’m just a young girl trying to find my way through life, and my career is a huge part of that. I know that I’m not alone in this. So for all of you that are experiencing what-the- fuck-do-I-want-to-do-with-my-life/what-the-hell-did-I-get-myself-into moments, I hope this helps. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, and welcome to Gen Y Girl.

– Kayla

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